Aarti
Is your marriage taking a serious hit? Perhaps it’s only a little wrecking ball, but it’s causing just as much harm. In any case, it’s like watching a wrecking ball inevitably knock down a structure.
Even if you don’t realize it, you’re probably ruining your marriage. You may be destroying the bond that keeps your family together if you examine your thoughts and deeds more closely.
1. You Keep Score.
Not much can put a damper on a relationship than keeping score. Antagonistic communication, such as praising your spouse for all they’ve done to support the family financially, domestically, or emotionally, or antagonistic communication, such as pointing out your spouse’s shortcomings, fosters an environment where animosity grows. Giving to other people out of the goodness of your heart without expecting anything in return is the definition of true love.
2. You Keep Secrets.
The intimacy of a marriage is one of the few places on Earth where secrets may truly flourish. Confidentiality is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, and betraying one another undermines that foundation. Destructive is the practice of hiding one’s financial activities or one’s whereabouts and company.
3. You Keep Up with the Joneses.
It could be one of the biggest challenges to marital harmony in today’s consumer-driven society. The goal of accumulating more and more material possessions starts to dictate how one lives their lives overall. The typical argument goes like this: in order to afford the larger house, we will need to put in more hours at the office. Because of the exhaustion and tension brought on by the lengthy work week, nobody is patient with the kids or with one another. Our financial house starts to crumble when the spending reaches a point where our wages cannot cover it
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, no matter how hard we work. In an attempt to place blame for our current situation, we desperately point fingers…
4. You Keep Talking.
Words have power, but few of us really grasp it. We take care to be constructive in our criticism and praise of our children because we’ve heard enough about pop psychology to know that it’s important to do so in order to boost their self-esteem. However, how does your spouse fare? Even if he’s a big boy, that doesn’t give him free reign to pick apart your comments.
5. You Keep Draining Him Dry.
It has nothing to do with money, no. Making your spouse fully liable for your happiness is the point. We require a connection with God because we were created in God’s image as spiritual creatures. We expect that partnership to lay the groundwork for our emotional fulfillment. Making your partner feel like he has to make up for your emotional shortcomings will drain him quickly. Nobody can take care of that for you.
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In other words, if you’re sad, you should examine yourself closely. Perhaps what’s absent is your spiritual life. Maybe we should just let him off the hook and pray for some divine serenity.
