Aarti
We had no trouble fitting each other into our schedules while my spouse and I started dating. No matter how exhausted we were the next day, we continued to spend hours upon hours on the phone every night. Things changed, though,
once they started to feel familiar. Perhaps you’ve heard or perhaps believed that every couple goes through the same thing: falling in love, then, hopefully, settling into a comfortable routine together, and, worst case scenario, going through a terrible fall-out-of-love. The question of how to reignite passion in a marriage is a common one. What if, though, you could find ways to spice things up in your relationship?
1. Talk about meaningful things.
The value of engaging in free-flowing dialogue is emphasized by Dr. John Gottman. You two used to have these kinds of talks while you were dating, when you’d ask one other about your aspirations and goals in life. Just share your thoughts on what matters most to you.
2. Go on a vacation together or take an entire day getaway together.
Taking a break from the monotony and stresses of everyday life can sometimes renew our romanticism and provide us with a new outlook on our relationship.
3. Spend time apart cultivating your individual hobbies or passions.
You and your partner will be rejuvenated and ready to take on the world when you reunite. New happiness, which you can share with your lover, will flood your life when you do what you love.
4. Be intentional in hugging, kissing and cuddling.
The release of endorphins during physical contact will strengthen your bond and, who knows, maybe even add some spice to your romance.
5. Don’t harbor anger or bitterness.
(Are you viewing your partner with suspicion or disdain due to grudges you’ve carried around?) When we are able to express our frustrations to our partner, we are better able to let them go and grow closer to them. Honesty paves the way for vulnerability, which in turn brings about closer relationships.
