Indices that you are containing and repressing your emotions

We are still learning how to be aware of our feelings, especially the hard ones, and how to deal with them in a healthy way. But when we grow up in homes that don’t work, where we’re told to hide how we feel and where there’s a lot of fighting and chaos, we start to develop trauma that affects our relationships as adults as well. “Many people with childhood trauma don’t even realize it exists or how it’s affecting their lives.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Our culture and society praises emotional control over emotional intelligence. Somehow, not feeling anything and not caring became “cool.” You’re weak if you cry at movies or stupid if you get excited about small things. We like to say that you should be above your feelings or that they are useless, but emotions are there for a reason. When we hide our feelings, we also lose the second part of the equation, which is the ability to deal with them well.If we don’t deal with our sadness, it stays with us and gets worse.Therapist Emmylou Antonieth Seaman wrote that.

The expert further noted down a few indications that show that we are supressing and bottling our emotions:

Hardly yell or cry: We don’t know how to show our feelings in a healthy way, so we bottle up the hard ones and keep them away. So, when we’re mad or sad, we don’t often yell or cry. But when we get angry, we often say things we later wish we hadn’t.

Avoiding confrontation:We’re afraid of getting to the bottom of things. So, when we feel bad, we try to get away from the situation instead of dealing with what’s making us feel bad.

Distressed: When someone asks us how we’re doing, we often feel upset or annoyed. This is because we don’t want to show that we’re weak to them.

Wants: We also try to make everyone happy, so we ignore our own needs and wants and go along with what other people want.

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Discomfort: The feeling of being uncomfortable around emotional people comes from learning that emotions are dangerous. This is usually caused by a traumatic event in childhood.